What This Article Covers
- Why most women’s transformation journeys go deeper than weight loss
- How trauma and perfectionism drain joy and creativity
- A real client story of breaking free from survival mode
- A practical EFT tapping exercise for food resistance
- The deeper truth about leadership, joy, and authentic power
- How healing your past unlocks wealth—emotionally and financially
Most women don’t come to me because they just want to lose weight.
They come because something deeper inside them is tired—
- Tired of hustling
- Tired of pretending
- Tired of living a life that looks good on paper but feels disconnected from who they really are
- Wanting ease
- Wanting joy
- Wanting to lead in their lives and careers without burning out, betraying themselves, or dragging the same old pain into yet another year
But before we can lead with joy, we have to clear what’s standing in the way.
A woman in soft light smiles with serenity against a coral background. Text reads: “The Courage to Lead with Joy,” exploring freedom through healing, by Sandy Zeldes.
When Surviving Isn’t Enough
One of my incredible clients, Peggy, came to me after years of simply surviving. She was successful on the outside—but inside, she was exhausted, numb, and stuck in a painful relationship she couldn’t seem to leave. Disconnected from her teenage daughter and from herself, the light in her had dimmed so far down she’d forgotten what joy even felt like. Peggy had once been a competitive equestrian, full of fire, dreams, and spark, but that passion had long gone cold. When we started working together, she told me, If you tell me to eat salads, I’m going to scream. So we didn’t start with food—we started with truth.
Try This:
EFT Tapping for “I Don’t Want to Eat Lettuce” (or Any Food Resistance)
You don’t need to force yourself to eat salads to heal your relationship with food.
This short tapping round helps dissolve the old belief that healthy = restriction and that weight loss must come from deprivation or punishment.
Before You Begin
Take a deep breath.
Rate your current frustration with “healthy eating” on a scale of 0–10.
Tapping Sequence
| Tapping Point | Affirmations / Phrases |
|---|---|
| Karate Chop (side of hand) | • Even though I don’t want to eat lettuce or give up the foods I love, I deeply and completely accept myself. • Even though part of me thinks losing weight means restriction, I’m open to a new, easier way. • Even though I’m tired of forcing myself to be good, I’m ready to feel free instead of trapped. |
| Eyebrow | I hate that I’ve made food the enemy. |
| Side of Eye | I don’t want to live on salads and guilt. |
| Under Eye | I’ve been fighting my body for years. |
| Under Nose | I thought restriction was the only way to be healthy. |
| Chin | What if there’s another way? |
| Collarbone | What if my body already knows how to heal? |
| Under Arm | What if I could trust myself instead of punishing myself? |
| Top of Head | I’m ready to release the old rules and create peace with food. |
Take a deep breath and notice how your body feels now.
Often the resistance softens, and you’ll feel a new sense of curiosity and possibility.
If emotions arise, that’s a sign of healing—not failure—your body is releasing years of tension around food and control.
Why It Works
When you tap on the body’s acupressure points while voicing your honest feelings:
- The nervous system calms
- Cortisol levels drop
- The brain starts associating healthy choices with ease instead of restriction
It’s not about forcing new habits—it’s about freeing yourself from the old ones rooted in fear and control.
Healing the Root, Not the Surface
We used EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and deep subconscious release work to uncover emotional blocks that had been quietly running the show for decades—patterns formed in childhood that shaped how she saw herself and what she believed she deserved.
Week by week, the transformation began:
- She laughed more
- She started cooking and shopping for herself—joyfully, intuitively, not from guilt
- She stopped binging—and didn’t even notice right away, because it wasn’t about willpower anymore
And then came the moment that changed everything—she reconnected with her horses.
That long-buried dream came roaring back to life. Within weeks, she was training again. When she declared she wanted to write her memoirs, a major publisher offered her a book deal within days.
A woman in equestrian gear stands beside her horse in golden light. Text reads: “When You Heal, You Rise,” highlighting emotional freedom through EFT, by Sandy Zeldes.
This Is What Happens When You Stop Fixing the Surface
When you stop trying to control your body or your life—and start healing the root—everything changes.
It’s not about another meal plan or mindset hack.
It’s about releasing the pain, the perfectionism, and the past that’s been keeping you small, exhausted, and out of alignment with your true self.
When you do that:
- You stop hustling and start creating
- You stop chasing weight loss and start radiating health
- You stop tolerating relationships, jobs, and lives that drain you—and start living as the courageous, joyful, and wealthy woman you were born to be
Living from inspiration instead of from unhealed trauma reveals what’s always been there: your authentic passions and purpose.
The Truth About Leadership, Joy & Power
Authentic power isn’t found in hustle—it’s born from peace, alignment, and the courage to heal.
| When You Heal… | What Changes |
|---|---|
| You reclaim your energy | You stop running on exhaustion and start creating from calm |
| You clear old stress and trauma | Your nervous system leads from love, not fear |
| You align with peace and purpose | Creativity, intuition, and abundance flow naturally |
This is how we lead with joy, not burnout.
This is how we create wealth—not just financial, but emotional, spiritual, and physical.
This is how we become the women we were always meant to be.
Ready to Lead with Joy?
You don’t need to fight harder—you need to release deeper.
This work isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about freeing you.
Your power was never lost—it’s been waiting beneath the stress, the stories, and the struggle.
When you heal, you rise.
And when you rise, you lead—with joy.
I help women leaders over 50 release subconscious blocks that keep them stuck in stress, shame, food struggles, and burnout—so they can experience real transformation in just 30 days.
If you’re ready to lead with more ease, joy, and authenticity—without force or perfectionism—take the first step.
👉🏽 Click here to see if you’re ready now to find peace with food.
You are not too much.
You are not too late.
And your joy is not a luxury—it’s your birthright.